My friends and I used a strategy where we have a thyla we pumped only health on- (group of three people) I tanked the worm with the thyla, one person shot flame arrows and the others shot with shotguns
Since everyone else's tips are stupid. If you want to find a deathworm, you can use k mode and look underground. If a worm is nearby, you will see it's body. You can use a land mount like a thyla or a flyer like the wyvern. If flying, point the flyer downwards to make controlling easier. As for fighting it....use whatever dino you have. Rexes are great, wyverns too. Wolves are effective against the worms as well as the alpha to. If you plan to live out on the dunes in SE, be prepared to have random encounters time to time. These worms CAN destroy thatch-stone-adobe. My solution was to just use my rex army but wolves work great early game.